Empty Nest

A letter to my littlest as she leaves for college

To my baby bird:

I’ve read that a songbird leaves the nest at about 10 days old. Ten days! But as the eager fledgling prepares for liftoff, mom and dad bird stay close, offering support and guidance when they hear their little one chirp.

I wonder, “How can Mama Bird possibly teach Baby everything she needs to know in less than two weeks? I’ve had 18 years, and I worry, ‘have I taught you most – if not all – of those important life lessons you need to launch?”

I think back to that time we found a featherless nestling on the ground with its mama squawking up a storm from her perch high above. Remember? With neighborhood teamwork, and a tall ladder, we hoisted the little one back up into its safe space in the nest, soon to be under mama’s wing once again. That one wasn’t quite ready yet. But, my baby bird, as deeply as I will miss you, I realize that you are more than ready for this new adventure. You have always had a powerful pair of wings, and now is your time to fly.

Since day one, you were small but mighty. You are fierce, strong and smart. You are humble and kind. You are compassionate, caring and considerate. Your ability to overcome adversity, challenges and hardships teaches you unexpected lessons and makes you that much stronger. You make me smile. Every. Single. Day. The reality is, you are no longer a baby bird; you are an amazing young woman. You now encompass the energy of an eagle – a symbol of beauty, courage, wisdom, honor, pride, determination and grace.

Along your journey, continue to believe in yourself, and always stay true to you. Trust your instincts. They are usually right. Remember the lessons you have learned, and will continue to learn, along the way. They will continue to serve you well. Try new things, celebrate your accomplishments, and learn from your mistakes; know your self-worth, and surround yourself with those who value it; work hard in all that you do, it always pays off; use the buddy system (yes, still!); and make sure to call home, often.

And as you know, it is a guarantee that on college move-in day (and the next day, and the next…), I will cry. You witnessed this when your sister set off for college… and I thank you for your support! But please know that I will be okay. I’m an emotional one. The same mom who wore those dark, oversized glasses when I dropped you off for your first day of Kindergarten. Now you know, there was a reason for that. And in those tears, there are happy ones.

I am so very proud of you, and eager for you to begin this new chapter of your life, pursuing independence and education. Following your dreams and achieving your goals.

I cannot wait to see all that you accomplish. Eagles, with their keen vision, don’t just leave the nest; they set their sights on something and they go and get it. Their vision inspires them. I know yours will, too. This is your time to explore the world and soar to great heights. Time to fly.

We love you so very much, and will always be there for you back at the nest. Just chirp.

Love, Mom

Shannon Pease-Severance is a freelance writer, editor, and mom of two who is still trying to fathom how quickly time has flown by.